Giving Legacy Gifts
While painting Husband's dresser, on my to do list since we moved into our present home, seven years ago, my thoughts travel back to our previous bedroom furniture. Beautifully crafted and made of cherry wood, this furniture had been passed down to me through my mother's family. For years these pieces graced the bedroom of Husband and myself. The day came, however, when Daughter was to turn the age of 19, that Husband and I made the decision to offer this cherry set, our bedroom furniture, to Daughter as her birthday gift.
You see, the year before Daughter had joyfully followed our move here to Texas, even though her heart was aching. Leaving behind close family and friends made this journey challenging for her soul. Joy and happiness are not always the same. Then our year of transitioning to a new home and state was intensified beyond imagination by the care of an aging parent with a heartbreaking dementia.
Daughter had stood by us strong and cried many of her homesick tears alone as Husband and I were overwhelmed that year with dementia care. Daughter became my right hand as we sought to honor the life of Husband's father and my days and nights were filled with Dad's care. As her 19th year celebration approached, Husband and I wanted to give her a gift of legacy. As Daughter loved family and history, we knew this cherry bedroom furniture would be such a gift for her.
The cost of finding some humble dressers to take the place of our cherry furniture was worth the sacrifice. Now this beautiful cherry furniture graces Daughter's married bedroom and God blessed her willingness to leave all that was familiar and gave her a wonderful husband met in Texas. And so I paint our substituted dresser and consider other legacy gifts we have given to our children.
A thirteenth birthday was deemed most special for Firstborn Son with the gift of a barrister bookcase highly esteemed and once a part of Husband's office. Not only does this bookcase house Firstborn Son's books, but reminds him of a season of life no longer lived by our family. Precious teacups which once belonged to Husband's mother, now long gone, became bridal shower gifts for a niece and my daughters which somehow seemed to make this grandmother a part of the special occasion. I won't take the time to list all of these type of gifts, but often we include some item with memory or family history to our children.
This practice is not necessarily frugal, but bears consideration if funds are limited. Sometimes giving some family treasure or item for a special birthday or other gift giving occasion can be a way to show love and appreciation without spending large amounts of money. Taking time to write a letter documenting past family history or even giving the gift of a book dear to your heart, can also be legacy type gifts. In our materialistic culture where so many gifts get broken or forgotten, passing on a bit of personal history can provide your children with more than just another present.
How about you? Any legacy gifts that have been a blessing in your life?