Connecting With Others
I went to the library a few weeks ago and noticed that they had reissued, "Your Money Or Your Life," by Joe Dominguez & Vicki Robin. Our library has never carried this book so I was so excited to see the updated version now available.
For die-hard fans of this book though, the issue is pretty much the same except for the addition of a wonderful preface that seemed to really resonate with me, in particular for this column on entertainment.
The author invites you to go on a journey with them by creating a clear, secure financial life for yourself, connecting with others, dreaming big, deepening your life and getting active.
"I've come to believe that the consumer culture is like a virus- it enters where the bonds of community have been broken. Needs are perceived as reasons to consume rather than as reasons to connect with others. Money becomes the glue holding together a society that has lost its integrity. Assumptions of solidarity, equity and cooperation are becoming as quaint as the horse and buggy. Material downshifting, then, can make room for "upshifting" connectedness. Frugality isn't the end goal, it's the means. One by-product of simplifying is having the time to engage in the arts of caring- communication, meals together, touch, having good parties, remembering birthdays, clearing up misunderstandings, empathy, patience, and on and on- and this is the biggest antidote to overspending. So consciously building nourishing relationships... is a way to unwind the ropes that entangle you in debt, insecurity, job boredom and fear of the economy."
In a busy, busy world, one by-product of slowing down, simplifying, and spending less is becoming more connected with the world around you. How can we apply this to our lives?
We could get to know the people within our own neighborhoods.
We could host a frugal party in our homes.
We can connect within our own family unit in a unique way each and every day.
How important are building connections in your life and what ways have you found to cultivate these connections?