Cheerful Frugality and the Grocery Budget
It's not easy to make a bare-bones grocery budget, but it's even harder to make one that pleases your family.
Thanks to everyone who commented last week, we've seen a wide range of grocery spending. Actual budgets for some of you are ideal budgets for others. I was struck by how many readers are (more-or-less) satisfied with what they have to spend.
We won't limit ourselves to bare bones today (though they would make an excellent beef stock). After all, frugality is not always about spending the very least. It's about doing the most with what you have. That may mean assigning 25% of each week's grocery money to invest in loss leaders for the pantry. You declare a beans-and-cornbread night so you can bring beef stew to a sick family. Perhaps you don't eat canned chili, but you buy some for the food bank when your coupons made the cans 10-cents apiece.
This March, I was so busy congratulating myself on the success of our Iron Chef Moms Challenge that I barely heard the angry voice from the kitchen.
"Mom, I'm hungry and there's nothing to eat!" my five-year-old yelled. "You never have any food in here. Just ingredients!"
Clearly, I needed to adjust my strategy. Here are a few ideas for developing a grocery budget that pleases your family--and your wallet:
- Don't replace processed snacks with good intentions. Devote the day after grocery shopping to kitchen prep. Spin raw ingredients into family gold with a new cookie recipe, fresh bread, homemade dip with ice cold crudite.
- Track your spending. Save your receipts to analyze your weaknesses. (Mine's frozen food.)
- Devote a tiny sliver of grocery money for "luxury" items. A good bottle of olive oil, a bag of gourmet coffee, even a $1 bottle of sea salt can inspire you for the whole week.
- Study the grocery ads online. Is anyone offering fantastic loss leaders this week, or should you stick to the Aldi basics until next week?
- Invite your family to eat as much fresh fruit and healthy snacks as they like, but don't limit your husband's favorite foods. You want to be a good steward, not a warden.
- Experiment with copycat recipes. Even a not-so-healthy item made at home is usually healthier than its grocery or restaurant counterpart, not to mention cheaper.
- Make ahead and freeze. You don't even have to do the math anymore. Mega Cooking and Frozen Assets tell you everything you need to buy, chop, and saute.
- Expand your grocery comfort zone. International markets are good resources for produce and spices, while salvage stores sell snacks and gourmet foods for pennies on the dollar. It's an adventure!
- Serve whatever you have with a smile: water, ice cold with a sprig of mint from your garden; oatmeal, piping hot with cinnamon across the top; raw vegetables, crisp and attractive on a chilled platter.
Your attitude is key to making a lean grocery budget feel full. As Proverbs 17 says, “Better is a dry morsel with quiet than a house full of feasting with strife.”
If you have a moment, I'd love to hear your best tricks for transforming those dry morsels into family-friendly meals!

22 Responses to “Cheerful Frugality and the Grocery Budget”
September 17th, 2007 at 8:46 am
I grew up in a house that only held ingredients too. Even now it stresses out my husband to go to my parents house. If he wants a snack, my mom says “help yourself!” Um, to what? Wheat that needs to be ground into flour, and veggies hanging out in the garden?
I’ve found that a lot of my kids’ favorite snacks are often loss leaders. And I’ve started giving them mini marshmallows instead of the occasional fruit snacks. Less sugar, & much cheaper.
September 17th, 2007 at 8:56 am
I really love your point about keeping some of hubby’s snacks on hand. After all-if you are a SAHM/W, then they are the one bringing in the $$ (Note: I am not implying in any way that what we do doesn’t have value, just that it doesn’t bring in actual cash)
I try to make DH’s favorite cookie dough (MM chip) and then freeze it in balls so that when he wants a sweet evening snack, we can just bake 4 or 5 cookies. The kinder are not allowed to eat the dough out of the fridge. Actually, since we usually bake them after kinder bedtime, they usually forget that it is there. Also for Yankee Bill’s birthday, Christmas etc I usually give him a package of double stuff Oreos-something I don’t ever buy for the house, then they belong to just him and he doesn’t have to share them
For the kiddos, I try to remember to make up either Jello or pudding at the beginning of the week. By making it in little single serving plastic containers, it feels more like store “Junk food”, they can grab it out of the fridge themselves, and I can snap one up quick for inclusion in Princess’s lunchbox.
Another junk food tip for the kids-we keep all “party” gift bags of candy on the range hood (where they can’t reach it themselves) then after dinner every day they are allowed to have one piece as a dessert. It is amazing, we are almost never out of candy-just when they finally finish up the goody bag from a birthday, then it will be a holiday or something where they receive candy from their teacher, their friends, the neighbors or something.
September 17th, 2007 at 9:02 am
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September 17th, 2007 at 9:22 am
Plan! When I go to the grocery store, I have my meals planned, and ideally, snacks and desserts, too. That way I have a list of everything I need to make out of my ingredients in order to feed us. It just helps me to have it all down on paper. I think it’s a great idea to have a cooking day the day after grocery day. The menu always feels more abundant when there’s ready-to-eat food around.
September 17th, 2007 at 9:31 am
“Don’t replace processed snacks with good intentions.”
Wow, ain’t that the truth! You’ve just inspired me to get off the internet and go bake some cookies RIGHT NOW.
September 17th, 2007 at 10:10 am
I try to keep cookie dough ready in the freezer. It is great for those nights when hubby wants a snack, but nothing in the cabinets and frig sounds good.
I also try to keep the snack drawer stocked. I take my treats, such a rice crispie treats or homemade cookies, and package in single servings. It is easy to grab for lunch or when on the go. It also cost much less then buying prepackaged snacks.
September 17th, 2007 at 10:40 am
“Just ingredients!!” What a great way to put it! The pudding/jello thing works–cheap, easy and can go in a lunch box. I paid 29 cents for Chocolate pudding and used powdered milk to make it. [Any one else have a heart attack over the price of "real" milk this week???]
I write out and post dinner menus for the month. Each dayI try to have a snack “in mind” each day. That way when it’s time for the kids to be hungry I make it. It’s a nice way to “serve” them without a ton of work. No one fills up on a can of ravioli that way, either!
A good example of a snack at our house would be a “roll up” made of the last two slice of turkey/balonga etc, dijon mustard, the last shreds of cheese. Stuck with a tooth pick to hold it together. Another is celery with peanut butter or soft cream cheese. For some reason canned fruit does better if served in a coffee mug or pretty juice glass….not sure why, it just does!
September 17th, 2007 at 1:24 pm
We pretty much have an ingredient only household, and sometimes my kids complain about it. My sister is big into processed and packaged foods, and her kids love coming over to my house for homemade treats.
September 17th, 2007 at 2:51 pm
Meredith- as always you word it beautifully! I yakked about it a bit on my own blog and have to totally agree on keeping hubby’s favorite snacks on hand.
But this by far- is my favorite line: Your attitude is key to making a lean grocery budget feel full. As Proverbs 17 says, “Better is a dry morsel with quiet than a house full of feasting with strife.”
I am reminded that the presentation of our food is as important as the ingredients and taste- a paltry meal can taste scrumptious when presented with style and love.
Thanks for a great thought-provoking post!
September 17th, 2007 at 5:44 pm
“Don’t replace processed snacks with good intentions.”
I really need to work on that one. I love your ideas, and I love the ideas in the comments, too. I may print this out!
September 17th, 2007 at 6:47 pm
I don’t have children yet, so this could all be hogwash one day, but…my husband will take a lame side if the main dish is especially good. Or, a lame main dish if the sides are fantastic. For example, frozen corn (lame) with burgers (yum). Or French toast (lame to him) with bacon (yum).
September 17th, 2007 at 7:24 pm
What a great and timely article! I do pretty well with knowing what to do to be frugal…and having really good intentions…and even *most* of the time following through on it…*but* I lose it occasionally at the point of people feeling deprived and then having an unplanned splurge. I am *really* working right now on the *cheerful* part of cheerful frugality!
We had a *really* yummy frugal dinner tonight! Planned leftover grilled chicken from the weekend, cut in strips and warmed in a bit of olive oil on the stove(worked really well…I *hate* the rubber chicken taste of microwaved leftover chicken breast!), bulk pasta from Sam’s Club bought as a *pantry buffer* a while back, two half loaves of french bread from the freezer, and a *use what you have* sauce that turned out great! Cream that needed to be used up from another recipe, mixed into a bit of a roux with garlic, salt and pepper, and a few dashes of parmesan cheese from the fridge. Yummmm…it was *really* good. My whole picky crew loved it! It feels so good to score a hit with a *use what you have creatively* meal!
Meredith…thanks so much for your much-needed inspiration in the area of cheerful frugality!
September 17th, 2007 at 9:15 pm
I’m glad to have found someone who doesn’t think I’m weird for not spending $500 on groceries every month – or that I’m malnourishing my kids. I love your pointers!
I make out a 5-week menu plan in which I’m able to feed our family of 2 adults and 2 preschoolers on $125 a month. (We get WIC, so we currently don’t have to worry about milk, cheese or juice.) I picked our favorite recipes and included them in the plan, with a new recipe to try every 5 weeks. We also have a “Leftovers” night each week and we eat a breakfast meal on Sundays. If we get tired of a certain meal, I replace it with a new one.
The beauty of this, of course, is that I made this comprehensive shopping list all at once and now I know what things to buy when they’re on sale. I also can print off my shopping list, run through the staples in my cupboards, and then quickly head out to the grocery store. It has saved me lots of time – and money! Now I know which “loss leaders” (especially meat) to be looking for each week.
September 18th, 2007 at 2:09 pm
What do you do when your Aldi’s isn’t that good (i.e., not very good produce) or that they carry tons of processed foods which are high-fat, high-sodium? I’ve had good luck with the Wal-Mart SuperCenter (and I know that some people have issues with WM; I’m what is considered a “conflicted” shopper myself).
I do need to get back on the stick with planning meals, but right now I am buying basics (milk, bread, fresh veggies & fruit) and using up what I have here.
Good thoughts!
September 18th, 2007 at 3:52 pm
“Don’t replace processed snacks with good intentions. Devote the day after grocery shopping to kitchen prep.”
This made all the difference in the world in our grocery/oops we don’t have time to cook budget issues. We shop on Saturday. Sunday after church, I cook/prep food for the work week while I make Sunday dinner.
September 19th, 2007 at 7:05 pm
Meredith, I really enjoy reading what you write. I love how you really believe in being cheerful and it shows. I need to be better about making cookies and other snacks. My kids love muffins and I can sneak healthy stuff into them like whole grains and shredded zucchini.
September 21st, 2007 at 2:25 pm
This is my first day on this site and I’m loving it. I definitely need to be more prepared in my shopping and meal planning. I’m currently in the process of making up cards with meal options on them so that my 12 yo dd and I can plan the menu together, taking into consideration what’s on sale at our favorite stores. It’s also a good way to not forget about something we both like. I am the only person I know who shops at both Wegman’s and Aldi’s. I am so in agreement with the idea that you need to actually prepare the ingredients for snacks if you want to get away from buying the preprocessed snacks. This is what I’m working on now.
hsgbdmama, I don’t like the produce at our Aldi’s either. Right now, I’m buying fruits, veggies, and really fresh, free range eggs at the local farmer’s market on Sunday after church. I’m also busy canning and freezing what I buy there. Spinach, tomatoes, zuchinni, and red peppers (for relish that is wonderful on baked potatoes) were last week’s buys. More apples (we got 60 Galas for $10 two weeks ago) are on tap for this week. We’ll give about 35-40 of them to the homeless shelter when our church prepares dinner for them in a week and still have enough for us for a couple weeks, at which time I’ll buy my last batch for the year. Do you have a farmer’s market where you can stock up and then put away for the winter at least some produce?
Sorry to be so long-winded; I promise to be shorter next time and I’m so glad to have found this site (and the Like Merchant Ships site).
September 21st, 2007 at 9:58 pm
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April 12th, 2008 at 9:13 pm
I thought our budget was a little on the ‘luxe’ side, but allergies force me to do most cooking at home *and* avoid most processed meats, veggies, canned or boxed mixed foods, and even many of the mixed spices in the store. I thought it was time to work on building a stock of prepped “fast food” instead of ingredients.
Today, the boys (two teens and DH) all wanted me to make yeast-raised waffles. The recipe makes twelve generous waffles, and I planned to double it and as soon as the waffles were cool enough to bag without steam clouding the plastic, they’d go in the freezer for the week’s breakfasts.
Uh. HUH.
I imagine there are porcine aviators orbiting the moon as we speak.
Twenty-four waffles. Two teenagers. One husband. Frankly, by the time they’d snacked down all but the last three waffles, I’d given up, so I ate the ‘last’ one myself. AND they ate lunch as normal.
What happens when “good intentions” and the budget disappear with two VERY growing boys? I’m not enthused.
April 28th, 2008 at 9:31 pm
Great article! I love the scripture that you used as well.
February 27th, 2009 at 10:50 am
I love that you remind us to be joyful. I have been lurking this site for some time. My problems are these:
1) we don’t have the coupons in Vegas that allow you to spend a certain amount and get a coupon for a $ off later very regularly.
2) The coupons that seem to be available here are for processed, artificial and packaged “food”.
3) We feel very led to eat whole grains, all natural, no preservatives or artificial flavors/colors and organic.
4) Living in Las Vegas, the “Farmers Market” is more of an expensive get together than actual local farmers with produce.
My question is this: Does anyone have good tips for those things?
I think I am very cheap, but seeing some people sepend less than $100/week is mind boggling to me.
I really would appreciate any tips.
Thanks,
Kelly
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